Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) evolved from the “Day of Unity” held in October 1981. The intent was to connect advocates across the nation who were working to end violence against women and their children. Domestic Violence Awareness Month was first observed in October 1987.

What is it?

Domestic or dating violence is a pattern of behavior in an intimate relationship that is used by one person to pain power and control over another person. There are many different forms of abuse. Domestic and dating abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions/threats that negatively influence another person.

What are some signs of Domestic or Dating Abuse?

• Intensity: Extreme feelings, over-the-top behavior that feels overwhelming or excessive.
• Jealousy: Everyone experiences some jealousy, but this becomes unhealthy when someone lashes out or tries to control you because of it.
• Manipulation: When a partner tries to influence your decisions, actions, and emotions.
• Isolation: Keeping you away from friends, family, or other loved ones.
• Sabotage: Intentionally ruining your reputation, achievements, or success.
• Belittling: Making you feel bad about yourself or making you feel guilty or responsible for your partner's actions.
• Volatility: Unpredictable overreactions; if you feel like you need to “walk on eggshells” around them or do things to keep them from lashing out.

Statistics

• More than half (57 percent) of college students who report experiencing dating violence and abuse said it occurred in college.
• One in three women and one in four men have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner.
• 43 percent of dating college women report experiencing violent and abusive dating behaviors, including physical, sexual, technological, verbal, or controlling abuse.
• 38 percent of college students say they don't know how to get help for themselves if they were a victim of dating abuse.
• More than half of all college students (57 percent) say it is difficult to identify dating abuse.
• One in three (36 percent) of dating college students have given a dating partner their computer, email, or social network passwords, and these students are more likely to experience digital dating abuse.

We take this time to honor survivors of domestic violence and inspire people to take action to end domestic violence.